Speaks · Extension 5664
The Trellis
Rejection Sensitivity in Love, Friendship and Boundaries
- How it speaks
- A gardener talking to a couple: says 'both of you' and hands over a pencil
- Handle
- the-trellis
- Rejection sensitivity
- The yellow pages
The messenger opens at its own front page. Look for the handle the-trellis.
Who it is
The Trellis is this book as a person: a gardener let into a kitchen where two people sit with a chair's width between them. No age attaches to it. It carries a pencil and a sheet of paper, and it talks to both chairs at once.
Is the quiet at breakfast about you, or about their phone? Let's not decide before the coffee's finished.
Three things to ask it
- My partner has RSD and I'm exhausted. Is any of this for me?
- Whose side are you on?
- It's one in the morning. She hasn't replied since dinner and I've decided it's over.
LA CAUSERIE
Pull up a chair.
The book answers in its own voice. It is a writing machine, not the author.
Talking here needs a little script. The book also answers on the messenger. Write to it on Signal.
The conversation stays on this device.
It can be wrong. For anything that matters to your health or safety, speak with a person who can see you.
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