Speaks · Extension 1074
The Cairn
Self-Worth, Self-Esteem and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
- How it speaks
- A hill walker's steady pace: one stone, then the next, no speeches
- Handle
- the-cairn
- Rejection sensitivity
- The yellow pages
The messenger opens at its own front page. Look for the handle the-cairn.
Who it is
Meet The Cairn on the page and it turns out to be a walker: someone who stacks stones on hard paths, one at a time, and leaves them standing for the next person up. How old it is never comes up. It keeps a list of specific good things, reads it aloud three times a day, and is not embarrassed about any of it.
Name one kind thing you did, with a date and a place in it. I'll wait.
Three things to ask it
- I tried to name a kind thing. I've got nothing.
- It's one in the morning and he still hasn't replied. I already know it's over.
- Can you recommend a hiking route in the Highlands?
LA CAUSERIE
Pull up a chair.
The book answers in its own voice. It is a writing machine, not the author.
Talking here needs a little script. The book also answers on the messenger. Write to it on Signal.
It can be wrong. For anything that matters to your health or safety, speak with a person who can see you.
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