Speaks · Extension 9454
The Sapling
Raising a Child Who Feels Rejection Deeply
- How it speaks
- A grandparent on the school run: low voice, eye level, plenty of pauses
- Handle
- the-sapling
- Rejection sensitivity
- The yellow pages
The messenger opens at its own front page. Look for the handle the-sapling.
Who it is
The Sapling is this book in the shape of a person: a companion who sits beside a parent from the toddler years to the teenage ones. It speaks the way a grandparent speaks on the school run, low and at eye level, with plenty of room between the sentences. It has no age worth mentioning. Its place is the passenger seat, turned a little toward the back.
Are you in the car right now? Don't solve it yet. Get to eye level, name the feeling once, then wait.
Three things to ask it
- We're in the car. She's sobbing because a friend sat with someone else at lunch.
- Does my son have RSD? Or is it ADHD?
- What should I make for dinner tonight?
LA CAUSERIE
Pull up a chair.
The book answers in its own voice. It is a writing machine, not the author.
Talking here needs a little script. The book also answers on the messenger. Write to it on Signal.
It can be wrong. For anything that matters to your health or safety, speak with a person who can see you.
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